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Magazine and other writing by Alyssa Shelasky




Sex Diaries

DAY ONE 10 a.m. I don’t get out of bed before 10 a.m. ever! 10:30 a.m. Wake up, check my phone. My boyfriend has sent me his flight schedule for the night. Sweet! He’ll be back tonight. I’ve missed him….

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The Both Sides of the BreakUp Series

In Both Sides of a Breakup, the Cut talks to exes about how they got together and why they split up. Maddie, 36, and Tyler, 39, survived cheating and illness, and then the city got in the way.
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I Did Laundry for Love, and Other Tales From My Roman Romance Gone Wrong

“I had just arrived in Rome alone to write about food and travel and collect some life when we met. Somewhere under the Colosseum, jet-lagged and disoriented, I randomly asked him for directions to my Airbnb. As he pointed to the…

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I Love Men, But I’m Thinking of Having a Baby Without One

I can’t change who I am. I want to create life. I want to be someone’s mom. But which road do I take, at 37.5, with a history of falling for the sweet and vicious, to get there? The logical answer…

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24 Hours with American Idol

Inside my television’s mindshare of serial killers and Scientologists, it’s comforting to know that once a week, Kieran dims the lights and J.Lo gets the goosies. American Idol — “bleak … now good again” — is my happy, peaceful place…

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Hotel du Petit Moulin: A Love Letter

“The first time I checked into Hotel Du Petit Moulin, it was to have an affair. Technically, he was having the affair with me, and it had started in New York. Evil and exhilarating, hypnotically fun and dangerously deranged — I…

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Buy It for Me: My Life As a Financial Dominatrix

“Goddess Nia is a 23-year old college graduate and a full-time financial dominatrix: Submissive men obey her by sending the money she demands and purchasing gifts. She expects to earn $60,000 this year, plus presents like Burberry trench coats and…

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Courtney Love Is Hooked on Chicken Potpie and Pineapple Upside-Down Cake

“I’m not a foodie,” Courtney Love tells Grub Street, “but I am a foodie.” And so begins the amazing and exasperating New York Diet tell-all, as Love weaves in and out of the Fred Torres Gallery (where her racy-femme show,…

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Fucking on the First Date? How It Worked Out for 8 Women

“On the hundred-something first dates I’ve had, I’ve been taken to Burger King, the car wash, and an NA meeting; I’ve left after five minutes, cried after six drinks, and engaged in many unladylike things. But sex on a first…

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Dating While Pregnant

Even though I’d gotten pregnant on my own terms, I didn’t want to close the door on love. One of the many reasons that I initially felt this was the right decision for me was that I wanted to relax…
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My Soul Cycle Girl Crush

She looked me in the eyes and moaned. I smiled back exuberantly, too exuberantly, a move I regretted a millisecond later. You shoulda played it cooler. You shoulda been coquettish, I thought to myself. We were both half-naked and dripping in…
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Farmers Market

“Here’s my quintessential farmers’ market scene: I’m carefully balancing on my right shoulder a grubby, oversize L.L. Bean canvas tote filled with Granny Smith apples, yellow cherries, pink nectarines and a loaf of rustic whole-grain bread. Two dozen wild tulips are tucked in…
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The Weekend Getaway

For a short period of time I had an East Coast and a West Coast boyfriend. Both were new, commitment-free relationships. The problem was, I didn’t know which I liked better. So I tried the ultimate relationship appraisal: a romantic…
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Bonding with Drew Barrymore About Food, Babies, and Booze

“Instead of trying to do it all at once, Hollywood icon turned wine entrepreneur Drew Barrymore is taking it one recipe–and one grape, starting with Pinot Grigio–at a time. Let’s start with the basics: What’s your approach to eating? I hate women…
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Kelly Wearstler Interview with Bon Appetit

“With a design empire that includes interiors, architecture, and now fashion, Kelly Wearstler tackles 30 meetings a day on a diet of boot camp and beet juice. How does she juggle it all? While she has no appetite for empty…
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Weeklong Boot Camp at the Ranch at Live Oak Malibu

“I’m a writer of food, travel, sex, and all things that feel good. But at the end of last December I actually chose to trade in my fun, indulgent, lucky life for a week of sweat, deprivation, and delirium at…
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Giada De Laurentiis Korean Food and Cupcake Milkshake

“Giada De Laurentiis is not as innocent as she appears. Especially in L.A.’s Koreatown, where she gets stark naked with strangers. “I have a ritual with my sister and aunt,” explains the Giada at Home host, who’ll publish her seventh…
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Want to Be a Food Writer? Alyssa Shelasky Tells You How

“So you want to be a food writer. You’re into avocado gelato and mapping out Maine’s best lobster rolls. You have a radish tat’ and own a Japanese cleaver. Congrats! Me, I wanted to write about celebrities. And for years,…
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A Pregnant and a Sober Walk Into Wine Country

I’ve never had luck with Napa and men. Five years ago, my long-term boyfriend and I booked a much-anticipated stay at Meadowood, a last-fail attempt at mending our tattered relationship. The moment we arrived, his 100-year old grandmother died. We…
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A Daybed of One’s Own

I’m a relatively calm person. I value composure. I’ve often contemplated getting a small tattoo that reads: Courage is grace under pressure.

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Dating as a Single Mom

My first date with S. was over Bloody Marys and fried potatoes at Vinegar Hill House in Brooklyn. Fleetwood Mac was on the stereo.

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The lonely hour


The Loneliest Hour / Alyssa’s Motherhood Interview

In each episode, creator and host Julia Bainbridge talks to multiple guests about how they feel loneliness – or isolation, or solitude-so that we might become better equipped to think about this thing we all experience sometimes. The Motherhood episode…
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How to Take Yourself on a Date

It was the best date I’d been on in forever: Thai food with a side of Vanity Fair at Lan Larb, followed by consignment shopping at INA, a 60-minute massage at Soho Sanctuary, and a red velvet Georgetown Cupcake for…
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Hannah Was My Kind Of Single Mom — Until The Finale

It took five-and-a-half seasons and a little sperm for me to love Girls.

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Baby-Proofing My Bachelorette Pad

Let me be up-front with you: This is not a story about creating the perfect apartment. My living situation is hardly perfect. In fact, nothing about this scenario is perfect. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.

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A corner booth at Balthazar with a pot of coffee and a basket of pastries. Is there any other restaurant experience guaranteed to bring such consistent satisfaction? Well, perhaps you can also count on a dirty martini with steak frites…
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I Swore I'd Never Complain

When I decided to have a baby on my own, about three years ago, I swore I’d never complain. I’d never take it for granted. I’d never bitch about the thing I wanted so, so, so, so badly.

And for a while, I didn’t.

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Slutty Elvis

Yesterday, our eccentric neighborhood crossing-guard asked my 2-year-old daughter and me if we thought she should be “Slutty Elvis" for Halloween. Her question made me unexpectedly queasy.

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Our Kids Crave Consistency

Before I had a child, I had a whimsical life. 

In between exhilarating relationships and impulsive cross-country moves, work meant investigating things like tree-house hotels and celebrity scandals. I created a thrilling world in which no day was ever the same.

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I Lost My Phone and became an amazing parent

I like to say that I’m an extraordinary mother, and a slightly above-average parent.

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